SNARKY RESPONSE: And afterwards, it's best told with copious amounts of alcohol.
What doesn't kill us usually makes for a good story.
As writers, we are lucky to be expected to break with that pattern and outwardly share both the sorrows and joys of our characters. Only if we convey the emotional depths properly can we hope to bring our readers the connection they need and desire in a good story. So, we hoard every experience, good or bad, recording the stimuli and response so we can remember it for the page. And what we don't or can't actually experience, we delve into our imaginations, building on the closest proximity, and creating the best facsimile we can.
So, writers and readers, take heart and this advice, when life hands you lemons, yes, you can make lemonade, but be sure that you also take notes. Someone, somewhere, somewhen is gonna ask you how you did it. Trust me.